Of my friends who entered into relationships in the past year, every single one of them first entered a period of exclusivity before even remotely venturing into "boyfriend/girlfriend" territory.
It is now expected that a couple will first hookup for a significant -- albeit unsubstantial -- period of time, only to then qualify their pseudo relationship with vague promises of monogamy.
We figured that exclusive simply meant that there was no hooking up with anyone else allowed: no making out, no dating.
As if labels with a romantic interest aren’t difficult enough already! As a 30-year-old blogger who’s watched too many episodes of Sex and the City….
Essentially, commitment (in our guy opinion) is a juiced-up exclusive relationship.
If I'm in an exclusive relationship, I can lie on the couch while she does stuff with her family.
But suddenly I feel lost on the girls’ brunch staple: Instead of consulting Urban Dictionary, I asked Facebook and Twitter. I considered standing on a street corner and asking NYC strangers but a blizzard made me scrap that idea. I certainly think of DATING and SEEING as different in my mind. The conclusion of my (extremely) limited study (“study”) was a shockingly even divide between the two camps. Or maybe I’ll just slip on some elbow length gloves every time I sit down to blog, and tell you I’m not old-fashioned. Which one do you think is less casual: “Dating” or “Seeing”?
It’s reached the point where I’ll mention him to my friends, the dude’s got potential. Like the difference between the B and D train: one easily gets you to the American Museum of Natural History, the other zooms you up to 125th leaving you wondering what the hell you did wrong and OMG am I in Harlem!? Annnnnd….a lot of other people think the exact opposite… “Seeing” can be applied to your friend with benefits, your ex, and tonight’s Bumble date. Maybe I need to change my wording when I write about dating, since I frequently do…